The most important rules are go slow, use plenty of lube, and communicate. Keep your fingernails trimmed and snag free and/or use exam gloves or finger cots (like condoms for fingers). If it hurts, especially a sort of burning sensation, you are going too fast and probably need more lube. Back off and slow down. Don’t even think about his dick in her ass until 2 fingers or more or similar size toy is comfortable. That will almost certainly not be the first time doing butt stuff.
End result:anal toys help bring straight men women who have had experiences that can foster extra appreciation for what you do for her in bed.
And how much lube do you need? Too much is almost enough.
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(1) Am I suggesting that women should consider waiting to try out anal play until they are with a guy who enjoys receiving it. Yes I am. I’m also suggesting that if a woman has had a bad experience ing the past, she should consider trying it again when she’s with a man who likes receiving. Have him go first, show you what he likes and then you play with him before you try receiving anything.
They help us know what we are doing when anal sexuality gets introduced into our relationships with women. When you know how to take a toy in your own ass without pain or discomfort and so that it feels good, you have the knowledge and sensitivity needed to penetrate her ass so there is no discomfort and it feels good for her too. Too many women have had bad first experiences with anal sexuality because the guy they are doing it with is clueless or thinks porn is sex ed (hint: porn is to learning about how to have sex as the car case scenes from The Blues Brothers are to learning how to drive a car. It’s fun to watch, but those are stunts, that’s not how it’s really done).
With that out of the way, there are two other things that anal toys can bring to straight men that I have not seen anyone here mention.
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End result, anal toys help bring straight men, more and better anal sex with women.
The other answers, even collapsed ones, are great. The sensations from anal sexuality, particularly prostate stimulation can dramatically enhance orgasms. And like everyone else I have to say, because it’s the zombie idea that just won't fucking die: anal does not mean gay. Gay is about being a man who is attracted to and falls in love with other men. There is nothing wrong with that, but liking butt stuff is about enjoying sensations that a woman, or a solo toy can produce just as easily as a guy. A guy who loves his wife’s blow jobs isn’t gay because her mouth works just like a guys mouth. The situation is no different with the guy who likes his girlfriend fucking his ass with a toy.
She may be very reluctant to try it again. Seeing you do it to yourself and having an opportunity to penetrate you can go a long way towards her giving it another chance.and seeing that the problem wasn’t that anal sex is inherently painful, it’s that the guy they were with didn’t know how to do it right. You do, and it’s going to a a completely different experience because you do. (1)
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
Every woman I know who has pegged (used a strap on dildo harness to anally fuck) her BF or husband has expressed the same sentiment afterwards. Specifically, ‘I never understood how much work they were doing during sex’ and some variation of ‘now I understand why guys roll off and fall asleep right afterwards’. As a consequence, they voiced more appriciation of and understanding of men’s efforts while having sex. Their male partners were working harder than they had previously recognized during sex. And almost all the women I knew had the insight to recognize that pegging was still easier than what their men had to do. They had a permanently hard dildo and if they had an orgasm quickly, that just meant time for more orgasms! They didn't have to thread the needle of staying aroused enough to stay hard, but not getting to aroused and reaching orgasm to quickly….. on top of doing an aerobic workout.
